Movies....
Worship...
Music....
Chops....
Testimonies...
Shout-out
Gifts...
Couples dance...
Surprises....
Etc
14th December Sunday 2014.....at the Digits place 5th Avenue F close House 6. Festac.
19 Sept 2014
7 things about Marriage....you may not hear in church...
7 things about marriage u may not hear in church
Ever wish you had the answers to a test before you walked into the classroom? Maybe some of you did have the answers, but you better keep that to yourself. I took some really hard tests during my college tenure. An engineering curriculum will do that. And if you spent time in college you remember review days. The professor would walk into a class full of students (some of which I had never seen) and give some insights about the impending test. Miss review day, and it would be foolish to expect a passing grade.
But it never failed. I would follow the guideline. I would study the handout. But on the day of the exam, the professor would put the exam on my desk…and there it was. A foreign formula or equation I had never seen. At least one I did not see on the study guide. Looking back, I realize something…the teacher did not intend for the study guide to be comprehensive. It was simply not possible to include everything from the required reading, class notes, and lectures.
Such is the case with the church and marriage. I am grateful for the foundation the church gave me in regards to marriage. It was a good study guide. But there some things on the test I did not learn until marriage began. So, I am going to give you some answers to the test that some of you might not expect to see. I grew up in church. I spent most of my time with Christian people. I was told much about marriage. But these 7 truths about marriage I never heard in church.
1.) Sex is a gift from God. Explore It.
Make no mistake…God created sex. But through the years, God’s people have allowed Satan to steal this gift. Without a fight.
I was never educated about sex…and I grew up in a Christian family. My framework for sex was built by my friends at school and the movies I watched. Big UH OH. I still struggle with enjoying the fullness of sex today because of the cloud of lies formed during my teenage years.
It is time for God’s people to take back the gift of sex. The lies surrounding it are ruining lives and ruining marriages. If you are married, let me challenge you to explore sex. Explore the fullness of it for the glory of God. Pray for sexual intimacy with your spouse.
Parents…it is time to stop allowing Satan to define sex for our children. Educate them. Start early. The average child is exposed to pornography at age 11. Eleven!! And many parents wait until high school to have “the talk” with them. At that point, you are not building a foundation for sex, but trying to destroy a foundation Satan has already built.
Church leaders…I am convinced of this. The situation in our culture today is too dire to allow parents to override you here. Talk about sex. If parents refuse to educate their children, then you do it. Do not let Satan beat you to the punch. A false understanding of sex is destroying our young people. It is destroying our nation. It is destroying our world. And we are doing nothing!
Sex is a beautiful gift created by God for a man and a woman that have vowed to spend the rest of their earthly lives with one another. If you are married…open this gift and enjoy the fullness of it.
2.) There is more than one person out there for you.
Soul mates are made…not born. I am not sure where this idea of soul mate originated, but it is false. Maintaining a healthy relationship is more about commitment than perfection. Every person on earth has imperfections. And the reality is we could spend our lives with more than one person.
Tiffani (my wife) is not perfect. There are nuances about her that frustrate me. But I have realized these frustrations are really a result of my imperfections. I love her so much. And I love her more everyday. I am committed to her.
I meet too many young people that are waiting for something that is not real. “I just couldn’t marry her because she smacked her food.” “He just wasn’t the one…he had this weird twitch when he smiled. But I know my soul mate is still out there. I just have to keep looking.”
Or you might have just missed him or her.
What if God does not want you to find a perfect person, but find an imperfect person that will draw you closer to Him? What if God desires you to marry a person with flaws to expose yours? What if God wants to teach you the value and life found in committing to one person forever, not the exhausting pursuit of searching your entire life to find the perfect person?
Soul mates are made…not born.
3.) The first year of marriage is hard…really hard.
What have we done? Are we going to make it? Why is this so hard? All questions I asked myself many times during my first year of marriage. We were arguing. We were fighting. It was really hard. And every day I thought something was wrong. I thought we had a bad marriage. Nobody warned me about the first year. But take this as a warning…the first year of marriage is difficult. If you are in the first year of marriage and thinking about giving up…congratulations. You are now…married!
But let me encourage you…do not give up. Everyone struggles. You are not unique. Persevere. There are better days coming. Your marriage will get better. Do not walk out. If
you walk out now you disqualify yourself (and your spouse) from years of joy. Stick with it.
4.) A spouse does not complete you
I hate you Jerry Maguire. You have brainwashed a generation of people to believe a lie. Spouses do not complete people. I bought this lie, and it wasn’t until I let go of any notion my wife could fill some void that I was able to truly love her. Until then, I was always frustrated. I expected Tiffani to do something she was incapable of doing.
If you are empty, broken, or insecure, and you believe a spouse is the silver bullet to your problems…buckle up. It will be a bumpy ride. Only God can fill those voids. You will never be able to enjoy the beauty of marriage if your spouse’s job is to complete you.
5.) Marry somebody with similar goals, dreams, and passions.
Marry somebody that is a Christian, yes. But I would go even further. Marry somebody with similar passions and dreams. Now, I understand this breaks down at some point. People are not machines. No two people are going to want exactly the same thing in life. However, if you love foreign missions and your potential spouse hates going overseas, some tension will arise.
Synergy is extremely important in a marriage. If your spouse has the same vision as you, they will understand your struggles and support your pursuits. They will encourage your walk. They will be empathetic. There is much power in two people living life with the same goals, dreams, and passions for life.
6.) Marriage is not for everybody.
Paul talks about this in I Corinthians 7. He tells the church at Corinth to remain in the situation they are in. If unmarried, then stay unmarried. If married, then stay married. He later says this…
So then the person who marries his fiancee does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better. (I Cor. 7:38)
Even better? I never heard that in church. Maybe it is time for God’s people to accept the reality that God has not called everyone to marry. I have talked with young men and women that are so concerned with finding a spouse. It consumes them. And most of the pressure comes from…US. The church. Once a person reaches mid-twenties, we assume something is wrong with them if they have not married. They must have a terrible flaw.
“Bless your heart. You are almost 30 and not married? I know this must be hard!?”
Shame on us. I am worried many failed marriages are a result of people allowing the pressure of marriage to draw them into something God did not design them for. Marriage is holy and good, but it is also possible to follow Jesus without a spouse.
7.) The wedding day is a lie…don’t buy it.
I love weddings. I love officiating them. It is a rare moment where I get to make a divine proclamation that forever changes the status of two people. Powerful.
But in an increasingly individualistic, “me” culture, weddings create a potentially dangerous situation. “Every girl lives for her wedding day.” It is all about the bride and groom. Everyone looks at them. Encourages them. Congratulates them.
Many couples have bought the lie of the wedding day…it is all about me. But marriage is at odds with this mindset. A successful wedding day is one where everyone serves you. A successful marriage is one where you serve your spouse. The wedding day is a day where the spotlight is on you. Marriage has no spotlight. The wedding day is about saying a bunch of words that most couples never take seriously. Marriage is about putting the words into action. The wedding day is joyous and celebratory. Many seasons of marriage are about persevering and not letting go through the storms.
Embrace your wedding day. Prepare for it. Celebrate it. But do not make the mistake of believing the lie. After your 20 minutes of fame, the spotlight is gone forever. It is no longer about you (and this is a good thing…you will see).
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1 Aug 2014
My itinerary for August
Papadee August Itinerary
August 2nd (Sat)
TWC: Total Women of Conference
Venue: Joseph's Palace Apple Junction Amuwo Odofin.
Time: 11am.
Topic: Spirit of the Womb(Man) with Impartation.
August 3rd (Sunday)
IMF : Persistency in Prayers
Venue: 5th Ave F Close house 6
Time: 6pm
August 4: (Monday)
HolyGhost Summit
FECA Satellite
Topic: The Surge. Time: 11am
Venue: Christ Reality Abule Ado
August 6 (Wednesday)
HolyGhost Summit
Feca Festac
Time: 10am
Venue: RCCG Kings model parish.
August 9th (Saturday)
9am-10am
BOT training seminar
Prime Exchange Network
Digits place.
5pm- 8pm
TTU CAMP (New Realm Baptist Church)
Venue: school behind GTbank Amuwo.
Topic: Online Dating Time: 5pm
August 10th (Sunday)
Heart2heart forum
Digits place .4pm
Topic: Loving an in submissive wife/submitting to an unloving hubby
August 16th (Sunday)
Senior Friends Church
Time: 8am
COP festac.
August 19-23rd
National Convention FECA
Enugu.
August 27-30th
He's Alive Youth Convention
Amuwo Odofin.
August 30th
(I). FOSM Mile 2
Dedication of new leaders
Venue: Chocho's place.
(ii). MBF (Marital Bliss Forum)
Venue: Ayo Odulaja Residence
5-8pm
Topic: intimacy matters in Marriage
Strictly by invitation and for the married.
August 31st
IMF with Communion Service
Topic: The speaking Blood (ember Months)
Digits Place.
Time: 6pm.
8 Jul 2014
Romance 101..... C
It's heart2heart this Sunday....Come and Chat with the irresistible MOR...her delivery is HOT! Truthful! Insightful and much more under divine influence ! Don't be told ...be there ! and of course with that loved one..Digits Place 4pm 13th July. Share the news !!
This is one evening ...you will not forget in a hurry....
There will also be Live streaming on YouTube and google hangout....
Watch out for the link....
1 Jul 2014
Live Chat with 'The Merchant of Romance' @ July Edition of Heart2Heart
Spice up your relationship....listen to the experts as she shares from her wealth of experience!
MOR....worth hearing!
Don't Miss it
13th July 4pm
Digits Place
5th Avenue F close House 6 Festac.
4 Jun 2014
Heart2heart Forum June is here
Come with someone special....and let's X-ray this once in a lifetime VOW together...Cheers
Date: Sunday 8th June, 2014
Venue: Digits Place. 5th Avenue, F Close House 6. Festac,
Time: 4pm
See you all
15 May 2014
Sex fills a powerful emotional need.
Extract from the book 'For Women only'
SEX FILLS A POWERFUL EMOTIONAL NEED.
Although popular opinion portrays males as one giant sex gland with no emotions attached, that is the furthest thing from the truth. But because men don’t tend to describe their sexual need in emotional terms, we wives may not realize that.
In a very deep way, your man feels isolated and burdened by secret feelings of inadequacy. Making love with you assures him that you find him desirable, salves a deep sense of loneliness and gives him the strength and well-being necessary to face the world with confidence.
And, of course, sex also makes him feel loved – in fact he can’t feel completely loved without it.
At the most basic level, your man wants to be wanted. Look at the overwhelming response from the second professional survey.
The topic earned the highest degree of unanimity of any question:
97 percent of men said ‘getting enough sex’ wasn’t by itself enough – they wanted to feel wanted.
One man I interviewed summed it up like this;
‘Everyone thinks that when it comes to sex, guys just want to “do it’ and women are more into the emotion and cuddling of it. So women think there are no emotions there. But there are, and when you say no, you are messing with all those emotions.
And it’s not only a flat ‘No’ that hurts. The survey showed that even if they were getting all the sex they wanted, three out of four men would still feel empty if their wife wasn’t both engaged and satisfied.
THE SURVEY QUESTION:
Imagine that your wife offers all the sex that you want, but does it reluctantly or simply to accommodate your sexual needs. Will you still be sexually satisfied? Yes or No?
RESPONSE:
74% of the MEN: NO
26% of the MEN: YES
#TGIF #SanctifiedSexuality.
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11 May 2014
Hook up links would be provided on facebook, twitter and google+ before every meeting, so make it a date
For June edition of Heart2Heart
Sun, Jun 8th, 5:00 PM - 7:00 PM
or
8 May 2014
Sanctified sexuality part 2
Heart2heart May edition is this Sunday 11/5/14.....#SanctifiedSexuality2 ...at Digits Place ....4pm.....SPECIAL ATTRACTION....MERCHANT OF ROMANCE will be with us to lend her voice . Don't Miss it !!
30 Apr 2014
Complicated Sex
” I realize most people assume there must be something wrong with anyone who is still a virgin past the age of twenty. It’s the type of thing they’ll interview you on Oprah for (The Thirty Year Old Virgin) or make a comedy about (The Forty Year Old Virgin). It’s the type of thing people hide in shame over and vehemently deny in the face of peer pressure. But that’s ridiculously sad to me. It’s sad because in the process of living out lives of promiscuity we’ve dumbed down sex and praised sexual expression over real love and commitment. In the same breath we shame those who value the importance of waiting and view sex as a life covenant between one man and one woman.
16 Apr 2014
H2H April ....Sanctified Sexuality
Matters that were raised and discussed.....intimacy challenges and symptoms to watch out for?
Share your thoughts....
8 Apr 2014
Heart2heart April edition.....
Don't miss it.....
Come if your a man enough to chew bone! 21+ plsssss.....
27 Mar 2014
13 Mar 2014
Holyghost Summit...2014
HolyGhost Summit....come all who are thirsty...Come and drink freely from the rivers of life...
Anything can happen ....when the Spirit moves.....
Come this saturation 4pm
And Sunday ..10 am service.
10 Mar 2014
9 Mar 2014
'Honey! Is it in the budget.'....pix clips
Today forum was simply eye opening....
Enjoying some of the pictures that captured the moments
The devotion.....
The worship..
The speaker and the delivery....insightful
That's my babe and son...
The rapt attention....
Awesome faces...
5 Mar 2014
Your spouse deserve more please......
Your spouse does not deserve left overs
I. Love. Leftovers…When it comes to food. There’s not too much that doesn’t reheat better the second time around. But when it comes to relationships? Leftovers suck.
Do you…
2 Mar 2014
Omotola speaks on 'how to have a successful marriage'
How can a woman have a successful marriage?
Omotola: I don’t believe in gender equality. I do not believe that God made man and woman to be equal in any way. I believe that in every organised institution, there is always a head and an assistant. It doesn’t mean that one should take the other for granted, or disrespect the other. I believe the
26 Feb 2014
Lest we forget to.....#YobeKillings
Let's us light a candle for all the previous innocent kids in Yobe murdered in cold blood...and pray that God would have mercy on this nation....and comfort all the bereaved families of this children.
Please share...
#sad
22 Feb 2014
Sad end.....when love turns cold....
Arowolo finally gets sentenced for the brutal muder of his wife.....
That's was the beginning above...
After the sentencing....it's been long trial
21 Feb 2014
Watch out for Heart2heart live forum ....with special guest : renownedauthor Adeyinka Ogunnubi
No finance ...no romance...have you heard that before?
50% of relationships and marriage challenges are about money and financial Management.
The truth is money answers many things in life and very vital in a love relationship...
Next month...precisely March 9th ....The author of the book ' Honey is it in the budget' will be live at the forum to shed light on family and personal finance as it affects marriage and relationship. You don't want to miss this next month edition..
Meet the author ....
Mr Adeyinka Ogunnubi is an expert in the field of Corporate Treasury particularly in regards to developing treasury systems. He has many years experience in management and has managed treasury projects across across.
Yinka has made tremendous stride in the field of Corporate Treasury managing portfolios worth millions of dollars across Africa . He has become astute at transferring that known from the work-place to the home front and has helped several families with the knowledge and tools to manage their finances. He is a renowned public and motivational speaker with a unique style of delivery that makes him a compelling speaker. He is happily married to aye waned, a lawyer and development worker with an international pedigree. Their marriage of over 11 years is blessed with two lovely kids.
He will be facilitating at the March edition of heart2heart.
Don't Miss it!
20 Feb 2014
Overcoming the fear of vested interest...
Please watch this beautiful thought provoking piece and please pass it on....
Guys...food for thought....
Think about it really....
Get up...go back home to that woman in your life and appreciate her more....
She does you lots of Favour....be kind enough to admit it and treat her well...
Thumbs up to all the great wives and mums out there...
We love you all...
Shout out to my own queen,...Oreofe...you are a rare gem and you mean more than this world to me...#irreplaceable
17 Feb 2014
Review of Heart2heart forum ....November 2013
H2H November overview
If anyone had predicted their expectations for the last episode of Heart to heart tagged “One Thing is Needful”, s/he would have arrived that fateful Sunday on the 10th of November 2013 to find out that
16 Feb 2014
15 Feb 2014
Enifome weds JP.....Congratz guy! Happy Married life
Pp
Lovely...
First Heart2heart wedding of the year....
Congrats Enifome and Paul....welcome to the club guyz!
Watch the reception entrance dance....
Here
14 Feb 2014
I would be ministering here too this Sunday...
It will be hot and spicy.....gisting on love and sex...
Don't miss it....
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