The Myth of Sex in Marriage....#mySexuality

MySexaulity .....bishop tweets

@yinkanubi: 2. There's d belief that married peeps hve more sex. Its a myth. The opposite is closer to reality. Don't ask me, ask @Topsyken @Talk_Expert

@yinkanubi: 3.There's d perceptn dat men enjoy sex more. Its a myth. Actually women enjoy it more while men merely 'want' it more @Topsyken @Talk_Expert

@yinkanubi: 4. If u think that getting married will guarantee u more sex, u better have a rethink cos you are in for a rude shock @Topsyken @Talk_Expert

@yinkanubi: 5. And if u think that u're d only one with a high libido cos u're "da man"..wake up dude..u are in the 21st century. @Topsyken @Talk_Expert

@valgambo: @yinkanubi @Topsyken true. Especially when the kids start coming. One has to make a conscious effort to make it happen.

@yinkanubi: Ok ..I have been married for 13 years....so forgive me if I say I think I know a thing or two abt this topic. #mysexuality @_MySexuality

@yinkanubi: Have u ever gone to a wedding and all u can think of is "What d newly wed wld be doing later at night?". Its all part or d myth #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: The perceptn is there that marriage is a free pass for sex..so unwittingly many get married only to discover its not dat simple #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: The expectations built up by this myth impacts on the marriage in ways that in some cases has literally broken up marriages. #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: Think abt "Making Love" as d Journey & sex as d destination. Unfortunately for many, sex is both the journey & the destination #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: There are a whole host of realities that impacts on d sex live of married people. Kids, work/life balance, & d big H-Hormones. #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: So even at the best of times in a relationship, these factors will still conspire to limit the frequency of passionate sex. #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: This is why if there be anything any couple planning marriage shd be fixated about, it shd be "How can I learn to make love"? #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: This is bcos making love is not about sex but about appreciating everything abt your better half within their current reality.  #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: So when my wife is in that period when her hormones are everywhere, I recognise that as an opportunity to love her like that #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: Making love means helping out with the kids and domestic work because it makes the woman relaxed and more receptive to u later #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: Making love meaning understanding that if ur spouse have been away frm home a while coming back to a clean bedroom spks volumes #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: Making love means letting the other person know...without prompting that you are proud of him or her no matter how irrelevant. #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: Making love means understanding that your spouse might just need some space and time to be alone. "Just one of dem days". #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: These ought to be the compelling thoughts as you tie the knot on ur wedding day. And not some humping sessions later at night. #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: The second myth I want to tackle is one that assumes just on the bases of XY chromosomes that "Men love sex more". #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: I don't know how many times I've heard people say "men can't do w/out sex...implying that "women can do w/out it" such fallacy. #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: The fact that men are more easily aroused towards sex does not mean that by inference they love sex more. Its simply not true! #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: A woman's body is configured to enjoy sex more dan d man. Unfortunately society conditioned us to not to see this obvious truth #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: Ever heard of WHO? I.e. WEAR HIM OUT! This is euphemism used by women to depict d total annihilation of d man in d arena of sex #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: Nothing confirms d superiority of d woman dan her ability to WHO d man. Whatever best he can give, she can take + knock him out #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: However, it takes sometime, some process & some learning 2 get d woman there. But d fact she's not there doesn't mean she can't #mysexuality

@yinkanubi: Men may think more or want sex more but trust me, deep down, women enjoy it far far more. #mysexuality

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But in a moving and enlightening video released yesterday (http://youtu.be/wpdd2eBvyXM), couples who volunteered to test the technology,eager to give their love lives an uplift,were surprised to learn the answer lay in a simple switch that had been right in front of them all along – the offbutton.

The video, which has received 765,025views in its first 24 hours, follows some of these beta testers on their emotional journey, highlighting the serious issue that we are becoming enslaved to technology. It has been released alongside a study by Durham University commissioned by Durex, which reveals that pervasive use of technology in relationships is seriously impacting how often we have sex, even cutting intercourse short and causing tensions in relationships.

Researchers from Durham’s Centre for Sex, Gender and Sexualities revealed that 40% of those interviewed have delayed sex because of technology, largely smart phones and tablets, with others reported hurrying sexual activity in order to respond to messages.Moreover, a third of the couples interviewed admitted to interrupting sex to answer their phone.  One participant said:“Sometimes I’ll be on Facebook and he’ll be on a sporting app while we are both in bed; we realise that we are literally sitting in bed together, but living in different worlds.”

KEY QUOTES AND STATS FROM THE QUALITIATIVE INTERVIEWS:

“When the first iphone was purchased by him I used to call it the third person in our marriage and I hated her with a passion, she used to sit between us, and I really disliked her… it has become a third arm for a lot of people”

“Sometimes I’ll be on Facebook and he’ll be on a sporting app while we are both in bed; we realise that we are literally sitting in bed together, but living in different worlds.”

“I may want sex and he might not be aware of that, because he’s distracted on his phone”

“In the last few months, I’ve tried to have a ban on her using her phone in the bedroom….. We’re now trying to use the bedroom for just sleeping and sex.”

“She loves her technology I'm not going to lie, she loves her phone. Sometimes it does feel like it's a relationship with her and her phone, she loves her phone and she's never really away from it”

” I’ve not delayed sex, I've faked an orgasm to speed it up to get back to work.”

·         40% (12 of 30) have delayed sex because of technology (most phones, but a couple tablets/laptops)

·         A third (10 of 30) participants have answered their phone during sex

http://youtu.be/wpdd2eBvyXM

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